As Mother’s Day approaches, it’s crucial to put genuine thought into the gifts we select for our Jamaican mothers. While the intention behind a gift is always appreciated, some items might miss the mark in terms of sentimentality. Here are six common gifts you might want to avoid this year, along with alternatives that hold more meaning:

1. Mugs and Cups: Jamaican mothers often find themselves overran with mugs and cups, to the point where they could practically run a tea shop. While practical, these items lack personalization and do you really want your gift to just be slipped into the cabinet beside all the other unused cups. Instead, consider a book of cherished moments spent with her or of moments where she made a difference in your life and maybe even the lives of others. Memories and appreciation makes all the difference between a gift and a keepsake.

2. Another Generic Picture Frame: The last thing your mom needs is another generic frame with a stock photo of a fake mom holding a child. These frames while pretty, often lack the personal touch that makes a gift truly special. Instead, opt for a home video filled with memories, and family members saying nice things about her and acknowledging the role she plays. 

3. Mass-Produced Bath Products, Especially Candles: While scented candles might add a touch of luxury to bath time, let’s be real—unless you’re planning to create a romantic spa experience, they don’t quite hit the mark. And even if they did, what mothers, Jamaican mothers especially, truly deserves is to be pampered like she’s pampered the family. So, skip the standard candle sets and opt for something truly indulgent—a spa day where she can unwind and be treated to a rejuvenating massage and luxurious scrub. It’s not just a gift; it’s an opportunity for her to relax and recharge, showing her how much she’s appreciated.

4. Generic Greeting Cards: While greeting cards are a traditional part of Mother’s Day, opting for a generic card from the store may lack the personal touch your mom deserves. Instead of settling for a pre-written message, take the time to craft a heartfelt letter or card expressing your love and appreciation. Share memories, inside jokes, and words of gratitude that will truly resonate with her. It’s a simple yet meaningful gesture that shows you’ve taken the time to make her day special.

5. Lingerie: Men, let’s get one thing straight—sexy lingerie is more for your benefit than ours. So, please, refrain from considering it as a Mother’s Day gift. Mom deserves recognition for her love, care, and dedication, not to be objectified. Opt for a gift that celebrates her as an individual and expresses your heartfelt gratitude for everything she does. Even jewelry is better, just make sure its not the gift you got her last year.

6. Nothing: We know times are tough, but just saying “Happy Mother’s Day” isn’t enough. Even if money’s tight, show your mom she’s valued with a heartfelt letter, a day of pampering, or a small gesture like a home cooked meal. She deserves to feel loved on Mother’s Day.

Mother’s go through a lot as well as sacrifice a lot for their families every year and even though its tough they show up the best they can as often as you need them to. By avoiding these common gifts and opting for more personalized and sentimental options, you can show your Jamaican mother just how much she means to you not only on Mother’s Day but throughout the year.